Reproduced with permission of MY-Fox New York. Dr Moshe Elbaum.
The odds are that for a child experiencing a learning difficulty, where a lack of early or no intervention and support from parents, teachers or professionals was given, that child will more than likely slip through the cracks of the education system and be robbed of an adequate education. A poor education can make it more difficult for a person to find well paid and meaningful employment and give them lack of career choices and can have the potential to perpetuate a cycle of failure throughout their life. This cycle can have lasting and devastating emotional consequences which in turn can effect that persons sense of fitting in and being a part of and belonging to the group, classroom, socially, the tribe and the world in general. Stop to think for a moment what it would be like to be a child constantly failing at school, even though they are trying to do their best to be a good student and learn but they keep failing. Then to make it worse, they receive no understanding, help or support at home from parents and or teachers.
Can you imagine the shame, frustration, anger and constant embarrassment that child might be experiencing? It’s not too far to say that going to school for that child would be stressful, traumatic, creating anxiety and deeply effecting their self-esteem. A child experiencing this sad scenario may grow up to never really know the true concept of success, because failure was rooted deep in their early experience. In contrast , a child who did well at learning and loved going to school will feel more connected to the social and learning environment and have a positive experience, thus a healthier self-esteem .
It is important to remember and realize that going to school is much more that just learning to read, write and mathematics. It is also a time to learn and experience our social and emotional boundaries, learning to relate to others, learning to make and keep friendships, being a part of a greater wholeness of our environment and experiencing the feeling of belonging. All these important human rights, which if denied a child, can result in them being the odd one out, vulnerable to ridicule and rejection and this may have lasting effects on their self-esteem and psyche.
An adult, that had learning difficulties when at school, knows now that they can get help with their academic and learning challenges and overcome these issues quite well. But the same cannot be said for the deep emotional scars, as these take much longer to heal and are much more painful!
Of cause as parents we want the best for our children and want them to have a good education so they can go forth into the world with confidence and fulfill there dreams and reach their full potential, not only academically, but more importantly be emotionally healthy. All children regardless of their social economic back ground simply want to be loved and to do the right thing and have their parents be proud of them. A child can over come any difficulty learning, behavioural or otherwise if they are given the right support from their parents, teachers and other interventions.
Intelligence Integration program recognizes the importance of the emotional aspect in learning difficulties and knows that with the correct training and development a child’s self-esteem and confidence will blossom.